Not paleo related, but important.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
How often do you do that? Hopefully your answer is never. My answer is, “Always”.
Most people are guilty. Guilty of looking at someone at hoping you’d look like them because they are skinny, or in shape, or tan. Or maybe you look at someone’s art work and just start comparing your own work to it – thinking yours isn’t good enough. It’s just not fair – not fair to you, not fair to them. There is no fair comparison when you start doing this. Just know that you have a lot to offer and you have a lot of things to be happy about!
I need to start looking at my own strengths and see my own value. I’m drowning my successes because I just don’t believe in myself. My successes in everything – work, home, personal, physical, mental.
It’s a natural thing to compare yourself to others, but it makes us unhappy all too often. I need to tell myself to stop doing that. I’m hurting myself, and as a consequence, I’m hurting people around me. I do it without even realizing, so I need to work on my awareness. Like with everything, it takes practice. I’m guilty of being really hard on myself – which I probably should stop doing. I always say I’m unique and if I start to conform to other standards – well then, I’m lying about being unique.
I am blessed in so many ways. I am so lucky to have who I have in my life. If there’s something I am not happy with about myself, I’ll work on it. I will work on it to my standards (or at least I’ll try my hardest). Believe that you are perfectly imperfect. The world views perfection as something that becomes unattainable. What one person has, you may lack, but what you have, they may lack – and that’s what makes the world go ’round. That’s where the yin yang happens. There is a balance.
If you always want what others have, you will live a very unhappy life. You’ll never have enough and you’ll always want more – a vicious cycle.
All of this really sounds like wonderful advice that I should probably listen to…it won’t be fixed tomorrow, but maybe soon.
“her soul was too deep to explore by those who always swam in the shallow end”
-a.j. lawless-
